Tips On How To Be Pleasant!

1. Smile to people when you pass by them and if they look at you, say either ‘Good Morning, Good Afternoon, or Good Evening’

2. Look in people’s eyes when you’re talking or listening to them. Never look around as if you were not really there for them.

3. Avoid chewing gum at all costs when in public. If you look at yourself in the mirror doing it, you’ll know why.

4. Never isolate yourself from people. If you’re of God, you have something to give to others, why hide it under the bed? Sit next to people in church, talk to them, make new friends.

5. Don’t ever make your own circle of friends. Be available for anyone’s friendship, make sure people won’t see the ‘NO VACANCY’ sign whenever you’re with your close friends.

6. Offer to help others once in a while. If you see anybody carrying a lot of bags, take it from their hands, if you see someone is looking lost, ask him or her if you can help in anyway. You don’t need to be an assistant or work in Customer Services in order to be pleasant to strangers.

7. If you love someone enough, let that person know. Don’t wait until that person is out of your life in order to show her appreciation. Do something today that will show her how you feel about her.

8. Don’t praise people because you’ll look good doing it. Anybody can tell when you don’t mean what you say. People who like to praise others too much are often the ones that badmouth them too much as well.

9. Walk like a lady, speak like a lady, behave like a lady, sit like a lady. Watch out your body, tone of voice, and your gestures as you do these things. They can either draw people to you or away from you.

10. If you’re going to talk, make sure it’s worth the listening. Don’t talk just to talk, just to mark your presence among friends. Talk if you have to and if you’re going to add something to the conversation. It’s always crucial to think first, then talk if it’s worth it.

11. Don’t be too quick to defend yourself whenever someone is rebuking you. Listen, think about what that person is saying, try to make sense of it. More often than not, that person is right if you only understand where he or she is coming from. Sometimes we make mistakes without realizing and without meaning to - that doesn’t mean they’re not mistakes.

12. Be a pleasant hostess. Whenever you receive anyone in your house, make sure you offer that person something to drink, have some biscuits and snacks available, and invite the person to sit down. If she’s staying over, have everything prepared for her before hand. Clean sheets and towels, some basic toiletries, and perhaps a box of chocolate with a bottle of water at her bedside table just to show her how much you enjoy having her around.

13. You don’t have to always be in the mood, but make sure you always go out of your way to make others feel welcomed around you. It’s not their fault that you’re having PMS or that a friend of yours said some things she shouldn’t have said.

14. Be clean. If you’re looking clean but your desk is not, what’s the use? Your house, your office, your room says a lot about you. So it’s not enough to look beautiful, the place where you stay, live, study, and work must also look beautiful.

15. Don’t be quick to ask advice. Sometimes all you need to do is pray and ask God for an answer. If you keep on asking everyone everything all the time, you’re showing your lack of dependence on God. If however you pray and time is running out and you need an answer, then by all means, go to someone capable to help you.

To be continued…

In Faith
Cristiane Cardoso